1. Let him know you believe in him. This will empower him to achieve his
dreams. [One of the things that attracted him to you in the first place
was that you believed in him. You made him feel like he was more special
than anyone or anything else. Work to help him see that again.]
2. Accept your husband for the man he is, instead of wishing you could change
this or that. [It’s so easy to fall into the trap of looking at what others
have and not accepting what we have right in front of us. The Lord
often reminds me to stop concentrating on my spouse’s faults and work
on my own.]
3. Help him be a hero to his kids. Speak well of him and the good things
that he does.
4. Appreciate the things he does – like making repairs around the house.
[Even if he doesn’t do them well – at least he’s making the effort—
which is more than a lot of husbands will do.]
5. Let him spend time with the guys doing “guy” things [unless those “guy”
things compromise the integrity of your marital relationship].
6. Respect his right to need some space. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
7. Stop asking him to throw out his torn, faded jeans. What you hate about
them is what he loves about them. [Learn to choose what you argue about
to those things that really are important.] Don’t make majors out of minors!
8. Stop criticizing his mother. [This may be difficult for you to do when
his mother makes life difficult for you to handle. But criticizing his
mother can make things worse in many ways. “Speak the truth in love”
and in loving ways to your husband when it concerns his mother to
improve your relationship. If this doesn’t help, ask the Lord to show
you how to handle the situation in the godliest, most peaceable way
9. Be patient with him – he’s a man. Make him feel special – he’s
someone who craves your approval.
10. Keep looking your best – for him … and for yourself.
Based on the book… How to Be the Almost Perfect Wife: By Husbands Who
Know by J.S. Salt firstname.lastname@example.org